Bisexuality - A growing trend in the Muslim community

24 June 2016                                                                               www.weusedtobeyou.com Dear friends, My Facebook page is aimed at bridging cultural differences between people, relaying news and information and of course interacting with many people from all over so that I can learn about their customs and traditions.If someone out there needs assistance with regards to medication etc I will help... My Facebook page is not a dating site.. neither is it a matchmaking site and if you going to inbox me asking me for my mobile number or asking me on a dinner date or coffee date or a movie date.I will ignore you. I was emptying my message request folder this evening and I came across this message that was sent to me in March this year. I am speechless and disgusted. 'Salaams. Firstly this profile was created to allow me to be discreet. The profile picture is not me. I am a  Muslim woman from Emmerentia. I am bisexual. I am equally attracted to females. My husband knows this and he is happy about the sexual possibilities we can encounter. You are a very gorgeous attractive woman. My husband is attracted to you as well.You have piercing eyes. Would you be interested in engaging in a bisexual relationship with us at our home. We are a young couple, early 30's. Inbox me your number for further details'. To the woman who sent this message to me.. please do me a favour. Sit down and ask yourself is this the lifestyle of a Muslim. Will Allah be pleased with you for engaging in such activities. Allah has blessed you with a partner, a husband He made exclusively for you. Why in the world do you wish to share him with someone else in a haraam way....Whilst I am definitely not a perfect human being.. I'm so sorry to burst your bubble but I don't engage in activities that will direct my soul towards evil..... Always be mindful of your Lord... He is all knowing...all seeing.......I am actually deeply saddened and aggrieved that such activities are occurring within our communities.... Within my scope of practice, I have encountered many individuals who have approached my colleagues and I for help and advice with regards to their sexuality. Some time back, a Muslim man contacted us via facebook messaging stressed at the fact that he is leading a dual life and of course needed help. I am not the type of person who judges another persons sexuality. It is totally their own prerogative. What a person does in their own private time is purely their own business.But what surprised me was the fact that this gentleman got married to the love of his life many years ago and they have a few kids together. A few years ago his wife decided to go into full parda that he supported. Her attitude towards intimacy changed and that is when he steered into a world unknown out of curiosity. He has admitted to enjoying sexual relationships with many men to the point of cross dressing as a woman and enjoying a guys night out at a club. In his opinion there are many Muslim men out there who are closet bisexuals hailing from super wealthy families. He wants to be in an open marriage where both he and his wife can have multiple sexual partners.I am of  the opinion that the more access  people have to pornography through their smart phones, more men and women would steer towards fulfilling their primitive instincts of lust and inner sexual desire. The scary part is that how many kids and teenagers out there have access to such filth. A few days ago I was told that around 30 teenagers were caught in the neighbourhood for taking drugs. How were the drugs obtained? Well, female students residing in the informal settlements were sending pornographic pictures to these young men at school. In return these naive young men had to purchase drugs from them. So its a case of, if you want to see a naked women in an erotic, seductive position, buy a packet of drugs from me first. I often wonder why does a kid of 6 and 7 years need a cellphone. Why do today's parents make their kids too big for their boots. Most community leaders are residing in a bubble pretending that everything is just perfect. I think its about time that these community leaders burst their own bubbles and start addressing these pertinent issues occurring within our communities rather than sweeping it under the carpet as always.